Talking Dirty to Your Guy
My other half, Lisa helped me with this.
Talking dirty to your guy isn’t as hard as it seems and most girls want to talk dirty … so what is it all about.
Sex can be a lot better when talking dirty and contrary to popular belief, you really don’t have to behave like a porn star to talk dirty.
Talking dirty should come effortlessly, and it definitely will. The easiest way to start talking dirty when you’re having sex with your man is to just talk. If your thoughts are sexy, the words will be “dirty”.
Some tips. Speak your mind when you’re aroused. While having sex, almost all the time, you’d find that there are a lot of naughty things that pass through your head. If you can think it, say it to your man. If you’re aroused, it’s definitely going to sound dirty.
Think about what the fantasies are that arouse you? The sexiest way to talk dirty to a guy is by fantasizing about passionate moments that are risqué.
Describe your dirty thoughts.
Want to arouse a guy even before you get to the act in bed? Whisper what you’d do to him as soon as you get some time alone with him into his ears when he’s driving and on the way home. As long as you go into all the intimate details, it’ll always be perfect dirty talk. At times, you don’t need words to talk dirty to a guy. When you’re making love to your man, show your appreciation with wet gasps and moans. As long as you go ‘aaah’ each time he thrusts you deep, it’ll give him the same horny boost as sexy talk. Say anything sexy, but whisper it in his ears softly and breathlessly. It’s not always what you say to him to turn him on, but how you say it that makes all the difference. Don’t giggle or try to look sweet. Look sexy, feel confident with your own body and moves, and just drop a few sexy words while biting his ear.
Don’t trash talk unless you like it and so does your husband.
Can you recollect any sexy incidents that always turn both of you on? Perhaps, the time when you almost got caught! Imagining and recreating a sexy memory like the first time you had sex with him or let him fondle your breasts through dirty talk can be extremely arousing and connecting for both of you.
Things to say that are good: You make me so wet. Your shoulders look so sexy. Gosh, it feels so big! I love the way you feel inside me. Ohh… don’t stop that! This feels so good!
Things I ask my wife NOT to say
More, more, more! (trust me, he’s trying his best already!)
Is that all you got, big boy? (are you trying to emasculate him?)
Screaming! Like really screaming.How many people actually enjoy screaming?
F##k me… (seriously, what IS he doing to you?)
Harder! Harder! Harder! … (You’ll make him feel like he’s inadequate unless you compliment him for it after a few seconds of harder thrusts)
Say something dirty to me/Call me a bitch (DON’T ask him, just say it )
Always remember to compliment your man with your words or recreate a few sexy fantasies for him while talking dirty. Everyone is different, but you’ll never know what works unless you try it.
PS. What you see & hear in movies, magazines is meant to excite. It’s NOT real life
Yes…Yes…Yes…Well said Mike
Thank you Amanda 🙂
YES!YES! YES!
Very good! Works for quiet husbands also, right. (Wink wink)
And thanks for the “Things I ask my wife NOT…”, Made me think.
Thank you for commenting 🙂
Call you Anna or Diva ? 😉
Talking dirty! My favorite subject! Lol. Great post Michael, keep it up my friend. God bless and stay horny as always!
Phantom writer ( hehe haha)
I know that the principles on which this site are founded are to honor God, strengthen biblical marriage and promote passion in the bedroom. I’ve enjoyed many of the stories presented here; however I’m concerned about this particular topic of talking dirty.
As followers of Christ, the Scriptures instructs us in Colosdians 3:8 to get rid of “dirty language” as the NLT puts it. I understand this isn’t a place theological discussion, but this is an honest question; how do we honor God, obey His Word, and use language in the bedroom that would make us blush any where else?
I’m sure I’m not the only one to question this particular activity. Anyone wrestle with this and come to a logical conclusion?
“dirty” talk is just an expression. In my opinion there is nothing truly “dirty” about speaking sexually explicitly to ones spouse during moments of passion. In fact, explicit bedroom talk between married lovers is promoted in Song of Songs. Talking “dirty” as it is referenced in this article is really about the erotic communication that can go on between a husband and wife. Someone might blush if they spoke like that outside the bedroom life, but because that wouldn’t be the time or place to talk explicitly sexual. That’s my thoughts on that.
If I didn’t have a vast amount of lust in my heart for my wife, we’d have been divorced a long time ago.
In other words, everything has a context. As Blondie has explained quite well, “dirty talk” is an expression. For Heather and I, the language we use in the bedroom is never used outside the bedroom (other than when we’re outside the bedroom talking about what we’re going to do inside the bedroom later.)
I’ve mentioned this before. I have a hard time with the “dirty talk” with Heather. My daddy taught me to respect women and using foul language was a big no-no. Heather is usually the one to start talking dirty. Once she starts, IT’S ON!
Good question, Anonymous.
I believe we only say those things when our mind is really focused on our spouse. Try not to use the words outside of sex that you Both feel comfortable with. I don’t know if I’m right ( I’m not God) however I think God knows where our hearts are and what a word means in the particular case so I don’t think we are disobeying God or his word
mmmmmmm and this wasn’t even the BIG ” L “
Good one,
Nice post but I will say that I somewhat disagree with what you said about “harder!harder!harder! Sex is about pleasuring each other(well it is to my wife and I) so if a mans wife needs it harder then most guys would(at least I would). I do agree that if your wife knows you are giving your all she shouldn’t say it. But I think sex is about pleasure,so the wife should communicate what she needs and wants.
I agree with, hot husband! My husband actually likes it when I encourage him with words like, “Harder!” and “F—- me good!”. Most women like a variety in their sexual experience so communication is really important because one day they want slow “love making” sex and the next day they want animalistic passion.
Horny GG here. First of all let me say that I feel what is shared between a husband and wife is never “dirty” or anything to be ashamed of. I totally agree with Blondie on her comment.
If you have read any of my stories you know that Ben and I enjoy “speaking our passion” What we say in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. I love for Ben to talk to me during sex and he loves for me to do the same. It is honest and very erotic. Ben loves hearing me tell him to (and I’m gonna say it) “fuck me” or “give it to me harder!” it turns him on and builds the excitement. To be honest, it turns me on to say it and to hear him tell me how he is going to fuck me. It makes me hot! I even “talk dirty” to myself when I masturbate (no I’m not crazy!).
In my opinion, I think we should stop psycho analyzing so much and just enjoy making love with our spouses. Sex between a husband and wife is a beautiful thing given to us by God to enjoy. Every couple is different and we all find different things a turn on, so let’s just enjoy the ride so to speak.
This was a great read Michael and you brought up some very good points. Thank you so much for posting this my friend. God bless and stay horny as always!
Thanks GG
Michael Walken, hey, You got the house shaking, with your story.
The polemics is only a great compliment to your writing. (Are you also a writer out of the site?) (Just curious, sorry if this is nosy).
Will try to persuade my hubby to read it too. Keep on blogging, I’ll keep on reading.
Hi Anna. Thanks for the comment. I DID NOT want to start anything. .. aka got the house shaking.
In real life, I am a nice guy, pretty calm, actually somewhat quite person who does not like to start arguments and or create problems.. However sometimes I will stand my ground if I believe in something.
Do I write somewhere else too? Yes.
I wrote that because I saw/read at least 2 women rcently who had a problem with their husbands in bed and I thought it would help.
OK 🙂
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it
lol Michael! I enjoyed your article. Very fun. I wrote a similar article awhile back on how to talk dirty to your husband. These are your personal insights and you shared them because they can assist with helping others communicate. That is great! I think whenever anyone reads a how-to article they should take from it what they know their relationship would benefit from and also communicate and ask questions like, “Is this similar to how you feel about that language?” 🙂 Keep writing, Michael!
I thought I would weigh in on this issue briefly. Concerning the comment by Anonymous and Colossians 3:8. First: the Greek word used for “dirty language” in this passage is “aischrologian.” And the translation of it being “dirty language” or even “foul language” is misleading. The meaning of the word is slander or blasphemy. So what Paul is saying is to get rid of slander and blasphemy. He wasn’t referring to what our society today would call “dirty talk” at all. Second: language changes with context. This was true for the writers of the NT. Many times the word used changes meaning based on context alone. But this is true for English as well. For instance, the word run. If I run a race I’m doing one thing. If I run to the store i’m doing something else. And if I run for mayor I’m doing yet another thing. So the same word can have multiple meanings based on context. So when it comes to “dirty talk” with our spouse, I believe that context plays a big role. If I get into an argument with my wife and say, “Fuck you!” that would be derogatory and would be considered cussing her out. But if in the bedroom in a moment of sexual passion I said, “I want to fuck you!” then it means something entirely different. So context plays a huge role in our words.
I would add to this conversation but y’all have it all covered! 😉 Haha. I agree with the “dirty talk” side!
I have a different take on those items which “not to say” — I actually, as a man, love all of those, especially “f me” and “harder, harder”. I would love any of those listed to be said, they are very hot, even if redundant. 🙂
Using Gods name to praise him is a good thing, using his name to curse someone is blasphemous.
My wife asking me to fuck her is wonderful, on the other hand saying FUCK YOU, ASSHOLE, is, as above, blasphemous. Its all in how you use it.