Hello MH Readers,
It’s been awhile since I have posted on this site, and since then I have been involved in an impromptu marriage experiment. I say impromptu as I never planned to do this, but instead, it came about after writing my last story Betrayal. I feel like this is an important topic for all marriages old or new, so I hope that these next paragraphs are read together by spouses and prompt an open discussion. My experiment started in early December as I was extremely troubled by what a friend had told me about a co-worker of his sharing pics of his wife in various states of undress to other men in the office. I casually know this coworker from having been at cook-outs and other parties that my friend has hosted so I decided that I would ask my friend to introduce us formally because I had a feeling I knew what this gentleman and his wife were based on putting some assumptions together.
I will now refer to this gentleman and his wife as Richard and Sandy. I met him first at a local Starbucks where we sat towards the back as I knew this conversation would perhaps be uncomfortable (boy was I wrong). We exchanged greetings, and I thanked him for meeting with me. I explained that I was a happily married man and couldn’t understand why he was sharing pics of his wife with strangers. I was not condemning this, as my wife and I have pics and videos of that nature but for our eyes only and they are locked up tighter than Fort Knox. Richard’s response was nonchalant and straightforward, “We are swingers!” Once again, I’m not naive, but I don’t know anyone in that lifestyle. However, lately, I have been seeing the term pop up more and become almost accepted as the norm in some relationships. I decided at that moment to start this experiment and had my first subject in front of me. For the life of me, I can’t understand how couples get the idea that this is OK and will “enhance their relationship.” Sure enough, when I asked why, Richard said he had thought the same thing until he tried it, and it has improved their relationship because they are no longer jealous people and have better sex. I was very honest and blunt with Richard and told him that I apologize, but that sounded like a line that I had heard many times when reading articles and seeing talk shows with people involved in this destructive lifestyle like they are robots brainwashed to spout the same directive. Over the next couple of weeks, I will post the rest of this conversation plus the things I learned. I will share how sometimes good people are brainwashed to do things that they are not OK with but do it because they think that speaking up will get them ostracized from these so called friends, which couldn’t be further from the truth.