Sex Playlist #6 – Sexual Healing (Part 1)

By: Marvin Gaye

I’m only 24…all the older folks in my life told me, ” Our music wasn’t as nasty or raunchy as the music is today.”

You all some lyin’ freaks.  We know where babies come from 🙂

Fresh off the long list of suggestions I’ve gotten (thanks for that BTW!) I thought I start off with Sexual Healing because I believe it was the first one that was suggested. Sorry I’ve been gone for so long…2016 has been a rough year! But I’m back and I got a lot that I’m working on!  So if you’re all ready to break down these lyrics with me we’ll add another song to the rotation!

The links to the music is down below.  Put it on repeat while you read! 🙂

Oh, baby now let’s get down tonight

Ooh baby, I’m hot just like an oven

I need some lovin’

And baby, I can’t hold it much longer

It’s getting stronger and stronger

And when I get that feeling

I want sexual healing

Sexual healing, oh baby

Makes me feel so fine

Helps to relieve my mind

Sexual healing baby, is good for me

Sexual healing is something that’s good for me

Whenever blue teardrops are fallin’

And my emotional stability is leaving me

There is something I can do

I can get on the telephone and call you up baby

And honey I know you’ll be there to relieve me

The love you give to me will free me

If you don’t know the thing you’re dealing

Ohh I can tell you, darling, that it’s sexual healing

If this isn’t all of us at one point or another in our lives.  Work, neighbors, coworkers, the boss, professors (for those in school), car heater not working, dogs, whatever it is, we all have our really bad days.  There are the ones where we just wake up and we just have that feeling deep down inside of us that something just isn’t right and throughout the day it just seems like everything that can and will go wrong goes wrong (Murphy’s Law).

But then you get home.  And your man can just see that something is not right.  In the middle of telling him all the craziness he starts rubbing your feet.  Or men you get home and as soon as you sigh all the grief away you maybe smell your favorite meal cooking or she offers to make that meal.  Just being around your spouse makes everything alright again. And as the day finally finishes, they lead your worn out body and mind to the room and give you just what you need: A mind blowing orgasm or more (ladies, you lucky devils, you).

Get up, get up, get up, get up

Let’s make love tonight

Wake up, wake up, wake up, wake up

‘Cause you do it right

Baby, I got sick this mornin’

A sea was stormin’ inside of me

Baby, I think I’m capsizin’

The waves are risin’ and risin’

And when I get that feeling

I want sexual healing

Sexual healing is good for me

Makes me feel so fine, it’s such a rush

Helps to relieve the mind, and it’s good for us

Sexual healing, baby, it’s good for me

Sexual healing is something that’s good for me

Well, it’s good for me and it’s so good to me my baby, ohh

Come take control, just grab a hold

Of my body and mind, soon we’ll be making it, honey

I’ll be feeling fine

You’re my medicine, open up and let me in

Darling, you’re so great, I can’t wait for you to operate

I can’t wait for you to operate, baby

This was prescribed by Dr. Spouse and fulfilled by the 24/7 At Home Pharmacy. We can be overwhelmed.  The world can scratch us and beat us down as much as it wants but what a blessing it is to come home and know everything will be alright.  I don’t know anything that the tender touch and kiss of a spouse can’t fix.  We’ve all been there where when that climaxes finally rips out of us everything you were worried about melts away into them as you continue to share the passion God created just for the two of you.

I know I’ve been one to be telling my wife how my day is going and I’ll finally just tell her that I need to take my frustration out on her pussy when I get home or I need a mind blowing blowjob and she’ll tell me she can do that or she’ll be waiting for me.  Gives me something to look forward to when I get home.

When I get this feeling

I need sexual healing

When I get this feeling

I need sexual healing

I gotta have sexual healing, darling

‘Cause I’m all alone

And I need sexual healing, darling

Till you come back home

Please don’t procrastinate

It’s not good to masturbate

OKAY! This last line, let’s take two steps back.  We all know that Masturbation is completely okay.  We have a whole section on this hand/toy self service.  But lets also go to the Word in the context of this song.

“Do not deprive each other [of marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves [unhindered] to prayer, but come together again so that Satan will not tempt you [to sin] because of your lack of self-control.”

‭‭1 CORINTHIANS‬ ‭7:5‬ ‭AMP‬‬

I believe it is on us as the spouse who didn’t have the bad time to spend our time making them feel better.  We’re not meant to walk this world alone.  Remember God said Adam needed help even though he lived in paradise.  We’re made to lift each other up and if this is how your hubby or Wifey wants to get over what’s going on then help them!

As a man who has struggled with pornography in the past, I know that when we need our wife and we don’t get her we have that urge to masturbate in the wrong way.  When ANYONE, not just men, are in a bad place and we are denied it causes darker thoughts to run through our mind.  Now that being said, God gives all of us self control and ultimately our choices are our own, but help is still very much appreciated.  Masturbation isn’t the problem, our mindset and what we’re focusing on while masturbating is the problem.  I’ll be the first to admit my sin is being mad the Wifey denied me what I wanted and I chose to act ungodly.  But the word of God says these are the problems that can arise.

Help your spouse. While Wifey’s have the title of Help-Mate, doesn’t mean men are exempt from the job as well. The only time we should be saying no is in a mutual agreement to spend more time with God in prayer, THAT’S THE ONLY TIME.

I believe it was Juicy’s husband that said his face was sick, not his dick. That’s not to say some illnesses aren’t serious enough that your spouse should understand–and during that time, still focus on prayer and getting closer to God to keep yourself and your marriage pure.

Where to put this:

So I haven’t said this yet.  Sex should be a journey, well when you’re using music it should be.  If you’re just in the moment and going for it, you’re not going to stop to throw your iPod on shuffle for all your sex music.  But if you’re serious about the music that plays in the background as you’re getting eaten out or driving her into those sheets then we need to categorize this.

We have three sections, The Warm Up, The Main Event, and The Cooldown.

You’re Warm up is obviously the foreplay.  Some ladies, are dripping wet the moment their man takes off their shirt or smiles at them.  Others need to feel their man appreciate what is theirs to share as the flood gates open up.  While men, most of us just hear our ladies say hi and can stand at attention like we’re in sexual boot camp, our ladies are different.  Your warm up should be music that is going to put both of you in  that, “It’s about to go down” mood.  Generally smooth music, with lyrics that explain what’s about to happen with a softer beat is what you want to use here.

During the main event you need those songs that the moment you or they hear them you’re ready to go.  These are the more upbeat songs,  nothing too fast, unless you’re a speedster and have that kind of hip power, but something with a steady beat you guys are use to rocking too that keeps the tempo.

The Cooldown is after everyone is satisfied.  You guys are drifting off to sleep.  Men if you have a voice like me and your wife loves to hear your sing, find something that will compliment your voice as you sing to her (that’s what my wife likes). This is music that you generally want that isn’t going to be fast paced, not bass heavy, not tempo heavy.  It should be there to ease you guys into sleep and something that will keep you asleep if you fall asleep before you shut it off.

So where do we put Sexual Healing? In the front or in the back. Pun completely intended.

Sexual healing is the right combination of a easy tempo with lyrics that explain what you need or what you just got: Some sexual healing.  Allow this to spice up the night for your lover as they anticipate letting their day’s troubles fade away into your mouth as you kiss them everywhere.  Bring it back as you find comfort in each other’s arms at the ending of another successful romp together in the bed you all call home.

For the Singles/Engaged:

Anticipating some sexual healing after a long day, but want to stay in God’s boundaries? There is nothing wrong with anticipating the day you husband or wife will see the stress you’re carrying and help you release it all through them. I say put this song on and read a story on MH that focuses on release after a stressful time and let your fingers or a toy be the substitute until God blesses you with your own dose of medicine.

How I’ve used it:

Honestly, I haven’t used the song myself, but I have used the concept and that’s the best thing about this song.  Sex is a deep intimate connection with our spouses.  It’s fun, it’s sexy, it’s a workout, but it’s also therapeutic.  Think about how simply hearing your spouse’s voice or hearing their name, or thinking about them during a stressful situation can change your whole entire attitude.  That’s the kind of connection we should have with our loved one.  And that’s just thinking about them.  Now take it a step further and absolutely lose yourself with them underneath (or over) the sheets and you know that Marvin Gaye wasn’t any fool.

Like I’ve said there have been those moments where I shoot Wifey a text and tell her I’m just going to need her or this, or that.  And vice versa, she’ll shoot me the same message or I can usually just tell (she’s not as vocal as me) and I help ease her mind. I believe it was the ever circulating Brittany Spears that said, “If I wanted your body now, would you hold it against me?” (Another song for another time). Submit to your spouse when they need you. I think I’m just going to have to put this on next time it’s one of those moments.

#RealTalk right now, I don’t always want to give it up. Sometimes, yeah, I’ve had a really long day and I just want to wrap my arms around her and feel her body heat as I fall asleep.  But I always do because I know when she needs it she needs it. I made a promise to myself when I got married that I would never let our flame even dimmer, let alone die.  I would always keep it hot because I knew that sex is one of the many reasons marriages fail and I wasn’t letting that happen to mine. I understood my body is no longer mine.  Once I said my vows my body became hers and hers became mine.  Archaic thinking according to this society but true Godly standards nonetheless. And as I look at some of the other young couples, married or otherwise, Christian or not, in my life I notice that they don’t have that same connection or trust the wife and I have.  That’s why when people ask me what’s helping us make it I let them know.

It’s that sexual healing.

Until next time, take your prescription like the Doctor says.

–UA

Video: Marvin Gaye – Sexual Healing

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