My previous posts have had much to say about sex and sexuality. This one will do the same, but it will do so in a quite different way. I want to write or speak to the men, married or single. There is so much more to the marriage relationship than A-B-C, 1-2-3. Your wife or wife-to-be is like a diamond, pure gold, the egg of a rare bird, or anything else that needs special care–your limited edition golf clubs, that exclusive camera, that old vintage car, or even your custom built firearm. Think about that precious piece of wood, metal, and composite; how do you care for it? You clean it and store it properly. You don’t allow someone that does not appreciate that classic vehicle to touch it much less drive it. When you do take out your valuable “thing” you bring it home and make sure it is intact just like it was when you left. You carefully clean it and hide it away again. You don’t let the kids play with it. You don’t let weather, rust, and other destructive elements attack you precious “thing.”
Now men, do you see your wife the same way or for the most part take her for granted. Or, perhaps you think, “I married her and I provide for her and the children, and I make a good living for all of us. What more can I do?” I’m just curious here guys. Do you see the difference in your attitude toward your wife, a gift from God? YEP, you didn’t find her, God did the work, you received the benefit, and you should back up and tell the God that loves you thank you for bringing the two of you together. If you cherish, love, brag about, care for, and protect your valuable “thing”, shouldn’t your wife, a gift from God, be cared for and loved at least as much as your precious toy? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NO! She should be treated a thousand times better–respect, sacrificial love, unselfish provision, and everything the Bible tells us to do.
If you want the best your wife has to offer in the bedroom and with her whole being, then you need to see her as God’s gift and start today humbly thanking your Heavenly Father for giving you the honor of caring for HIS daughter. By the way, this is just the first step. We all know that we men love a challenge, so I am offering you one of the greatest, most rewarding challenges you will ever face. To receive and accept this gift from God and learn how He has planned for you to love His gift to you, how to care for her, how to meet her needs, and the greatest challenge of all–how to understand her; you must study the instructions in the Bible and study your wife. 1 Peter 3:7 says rather clearly, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” (ESV)
Let us begin at the end of the verse and work toward the beginning. Do you pray to God the Father and hope for an answer? Hmmmm, you may be a bit uncomfortable with the question, but if you hope to find or receive all that God has for you this side of heaven, you better; and you better understand God’s expectations for answered prayer. One of those is found in this verse, treat your wife well and with honor and understanding. An aspect of this verse that is not often mentioned, “that your prayers may not be hindered.” Perhaps a better way to state it is, that you would have no problem stating your prayers. It is possible that the problem will not be with God but with you and I. I bet some of you are thinking, “God hears all our prayers.” Yes but does He answer them in an affirmative way, or perhaps you never know if God answers your prayers. If you would like to know that God hears and even responds to your prayers, I suggest that you take 1 Peter 3:7 seriously. No, I do not mean this is the only way you can be sure God hears and is willing to respond to your prayers. This is just one of the areas of obedience that God sets out in the Bible.
Now back to the point at hand, treating your wife as though you could never live without her as a part of your life. Seeing her as the incredible gift from God she truly is. So, you have a hobby or a sports activity that you love with the clothing and necessary accouterments. It may be that the extras of your hobby or activity need special attention after use. I get that; I have activities that require I care for my clothes and the instruments of my highly enjoyed activity. It takes a wash load twice a week for one of my sports activities; it takes 30-60 mins. to clean and put my goodies away after my other hobby. No, I don’t mind this work after the fact because I enjoy each activity so much. So, I repeat my earlier question. Do you care for your wife the way you do your hobby or loved activity???
If no, why not? First Peter 3:7 tells us to do this very thing, to live with our wives with understanding, as though she is weaker and needs extra care and protection. I know it is easy to let other things rise in importance in our lives guys; we need these things to help affirm our manhood, our masculinity. That is okay as long as we do not allow them to displace our wife. Do not allow anything to replace or displace your wife as second only to Jesus Christ in your life.
As stated above, If you want the best your wife has to offer in the bedroom and with her whole being, then you need to see her as God’s gift and start today humbly thanking your Heavenly Father for giving you the honor of caring for HIS daughter. You need to care for her, protect her, meet her needs, and hold her in very high esteem.