Kat and I live in NYC and we often have people visiting and staying with us in our apartment. This weekend is no exception. We used to try to not have much sexual interaction while people were here so as to not make people feel uncomfortable, but the visits are so often that it means more weekends than not we probably wouldn’t be having sex.
About 3 years ago we had a talk about this and decided that we either had to limit the number of guests we have or just change our behavior and enjoy sex together no matter who is in the apartment. We decided on the later since we really enjoy having people in our home.
We have a 2 bedroom apartment and most often our guests stay in the other bedroom but on occasion, like this weekend, we have someone sleeping on the couch in the living room outside of our bedroom. We had a great time out with this group of friends last night. Dinner, drinks and up late talking and laughing. Then we headed to bed and Kat and I enjoyed a pretty extended love making session. I have no doubt that if the person sleeping on the couch was awake, they knew exactly what we were doing. There was no screaming, but plenty of moaning, bodies slapping together and bed rocking. We weren’t trying to be loud but weren’t trying to be quiet either.
Upon waking up this morning our sexual encounter continued with a quick hand job and blow job from Kat. Then we went out to the living room and met up with our guests to head to brunch. No one said anything or gave any knowing glances. We just enjoyed our morning together with friends.
I was sitting here thinking that this should be the norm. Sex isn’t bad, it isn’t dirty, we don’t have to act like we, as a married couple, don’t have sex and don’t enjoy having sex with each other. I hope that if our friend did hear us, then they were thinking how wonderful it is that this couple is still so deeply passionate about each other after all these years. I’m thinking we will probably be going at it again tonight!