I am busy writing a book about sex in marriage and have been thinking of this chapter and find it quite difficult to express what I really want to say.
Firstly, what is the difference between “Sex Talk” and “Blatant Sexuality.” I have never heard or read anything about this topic, so I am only going to share this from a man’s point of view and then I am going to ask my wife and the readers of MH to give me their viewpoint from the ladies’ perspective.
“Sex Talk” is the open discussion between husband and wife about things they like or dislike or things they would like to try. “Sex Talk” can be part of foreplay and might lead to actually having sex.
However, Blatant Sexuality is when one person does things that are so blatantly saying “I WANT TO HAVE YOU NOW” that you have to be blind to miss it. Blatant Sexuality is not so much what is SAID, but the directness of the communication. It is communication that is in your face and cannot be missed by even the blind and deaf.
I am going to give some examples of what I would place in this category. (This is from a man’s point of view)
1. He is watching TV or reading. She pulls her panty to the side exposing her most delicate womanhood and says, “Honey, just look at this. I think my pussy is on fire and I need your urgent attention.”
2. She says, “Are you gong to watch TV or would would you like to come and watch me play with myself? You can join me if if you want to.”
3. She puts her finger under his nose and he can clearly smell that she has just taken it out of her moist secret garden and she says, “Want some?”
I think I speak for most men when I say that we would love to have our wives be far more direct and even BLATANT with us. We have a deep desire to know that our wives also want US and not just the other way around. Girls, come right out and say it. Make it so direct and in our face that we just cannot miss it.
Now ladies. Please give me your ideas on Blatant Sexuality. Things that you would do or things that would excite you if your husband did it.