I often read the results of questionnaires about sexual desires and fantasies. One thing that I notice: The fantasy of all fantasies and the desire of all desires, for many people, is to watch their spouse masturbating.
Most readers might think only the men desire this, but it surprises me how many women say they would love to masturbate for their husbands. The biggest hurdle for them is finding the courage to do it for the first time. Many write about the joy and sensuality that they experience when they watch their husbands please themselves. Some even have fantasies about ‘catching’ their husbands and then joining them.
I think of myself as one super-blessed husband because my wife loves to masturbate and also loves having times of ‘jacking and jilling’ with me. Masturbation is not a secretive thing in our house; we are very open about our desires and needs in this area.
When we were newlyweds, I had to go to another city on a few occasions over a period of three months. When I called her from my hotel room the first night to make sure that she was OK, she asked me to open my suitcase and look in the bag with my shaving supplies. I found that she had put a bottle of coconut oil in the bag. (It is our favorite lubricant for our times of playing.) She told me to go and have a shower, get naked and then call her because she needed to cum and she wanted us to play together.
This became the standard for every trip I took and we enjoyed wild times of masturbating together while on the phone. I think we enjoyed it so much that we looked forward to those ‘away times’. With the modern smartphones, it is now possible to watch each other as well.
Last night I was really in the mood for some sex with my wife. I spent the entire day touching her or grabbing her as she walked past me, kissing her on the neck and other sexy things that conveyed the message, “I want you!”
We were watching some TV during the early part of the evening when she looked at me and asked, “What would you like me to do for you tonight?”
I was ready for this moment and instantaneously said, “I want you to play with your pussy for me. I want to watch you cum over and over.”
She responded casually, as she got up to go for a shower, “Give me 4 things and I will give you a show that will have you dripping like a leaking tap.
- Get towels over the seats of our chairs.
- Get my LELO Swan vibrator.
- Get the coconut oil. And
- Lose your clothes. All of them!
“This is not going to be a solo performance. You may watch me, but I also want to see you playing with yourself. It just makes me so hot!”
After a few minutes, she came out of the shower wearing nothing but a very sexy smile on her face. There was no foreplay. The foreplay had taken place during the day and what she said before going to have a shower had us both hot and wet. She sat down very casually and started stroking herself, pretending that I was not even in the room.
I just sat there watching her. I could see from her hand movements that she was starting to experience a lot of pleasure.
She reached for the coconut oil and poured an ample amount on herself. Then she handed me the bottle and told me, “Get that thing oiled up and ready to play for me.”
The fact that I had warmed the oil in the microwave gave it a very sensual feel as it ran down over the head and length of my already sensitive member.
By this time my wife had three fingers inside and was enjoying herself immensely. She needed no instructions from me; she was a master at this game and was in total control. Her attention turned to that sweet little button of hers and, within a minute, she was shaking as she had her first orgasm of the night.
She retrieved the bottle of oil and took her Swan, coating it with copious amounts of coconut oil. I could hear the soft buzz as it disappeared into her sweet spot.
My sexy lover wanted to be in total control this time. She told me exactly what I was supposed to do to excite her. First, she wanted to see me pouring oil on my penis and balls and to very slowly allow the head to come through my closed fingers as my hand moved up and down the shaft. Then she had me slide down in the chair as far as possible and open my legs as wide as possible. Her eyes were fixed on my hand and there was a darkness to her eyes that was so sexy.
My movements were slow and deliberate. (One of the great advantages of Jacking and Jilling together is that you can pace yourself and keep the game going for as long as you want. If the sensations become too strong, you loosen the grip or just let go for a while and enjoy the view.)
It was clear that she was experiencing sensations that were about to blow her mind. She suddenly grabbed her boob and squeezed it. At that moment, her thighs started shaking and a low groan escaped from her mouth as she started cumming. My wife is multiorgasmic and can easily have 8 or 10 orgasms during our times of lovemaking. But what happened next was very different. She just kept on cumming. She did not stop. This went on for more than a minute.
I was mesmerized by the scene that was playing out in front of me. I had to stop my own actions to prevent me from cumming right then.
She fell back in her chair with closed eyes and a smile on her face. As she sighed deeply in satisfaction, the muscles on her tummy were still shaking as she started to relax.
But she was not finished with the game that she had planned. She told me to swing my chair in such a way that we were facing one another. Then I had to pull my chair closer so that she could put her feet on my chair’s armrests. Can you imagine the absolute sensuality of this moment?
I am not going to give any more information about the rest of the evening. What I will say is that she was in charge and kept me doing things to myself that were super sexy and made me feel extremely loved and pampered. I was on edge for more than an hour while she had many orgasms, some lasting for more than a minute.
Allow me to end this with a word of advice that I think many MH readers would second:
Play together often. Invite your spouse to join you in self-pleasure. If you are not doing it already, get it ON! It is one of the great joys of being married.