How I Gave Up the Bad Guys

When I met my future husband, he was unlike any other man I had ever met.  I was always attracted to “bad boys” who didn’t exactly treat me like a lady and expected sex after one date.  I was at a friend’s big birthday party at the Knights of Columbus hall with one of my “bad boy” dates, and we had both had a little too much to drink.  I was wearing a tight short, low-cut metallic silver dress. He started grabbing me close to him, and running his hands all over my body, including my breasts, and kissing me to the point where people were starting to stare.  I tried to pull away from him, but I felt helpless, maybe because I had been drinking too.  That is when I felt a tap on my shoulder and looked to see a handsome guy standing there. He had dark blond hair, was tall and great looking.  He said, “Hi, I’m Jason, would you like to dance?”

I said sure and was relieved to get away from my drunken date.  But instead of leading me to the dance floor, he led me outside to his car.  He told me he wanted to get me out of that situation, and that he was going to drive me home.  I got a little upset because I wasn’t ready to leave the party, but he looked at me very sternly and said, “The party is over for you young lady”.  There was something about the way he spoke to me that made me give him my address, and he drove me home in silence.

When we got to my apartment, he finally turned to look at me with what looked liked a mixture of anger and pity.  I scooted up close to him and felt so attracted to him that I pressed my body close to his, leaned forward to kiss him, and asked him if he wanted to come inside.  I’ll admit I had visions of him staying for the night!  He gave me one little kiss but then held my shoulders firmly.  Then he said, “That is not the way this relationship is going to be conducted, young lady.”  Well, this was my first taste of a man who was not just interested in my body, and it was very refreshing!  He told me that he wanted to take me with him to church the next day, that he would be picking me up at 10:30 and to make sure that I was wearing something more appropriate.

The next day was the first day of the rest of my life!  I felt a little uncomfortable during the service because I had never been a churchgoer, but Jason made me feel so welcome and said he was pleased with the pretty floral dress I had chosen to wear.  Afterwards, he took me out to brunch at a nice restaurant and then we went for a long walk on a trail by the river.  It was a beautiful spring day, and I knew then that my life would never be the same.  Jason told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend exclusively and that he had heard about my reputation (I blushed when he said that), but that he wanted to mold me into a woman worthy of marriage and family.  He said that he had seen me a few times before the party, and he had fallen in love with me.  He told me that if I agreed to live by his rules, we could live happily ever after and that I would never need to work again.  I admit, that part sounded awesome!

The RULES, as he called them, involved me becoming much more of a lady than I had been.  Over the next year, I went from wearing slutty outfits and picking up guys in bars to wearing feminine dresses and dating Jason exclusively.  Jason also had me give up smoking and drinking which has made me feel healthier.  Five months later, Jason proposed to me while we were out on a hayride on a glorious fall day.  I went with him to his Baptist church every Sunday and learned about the husband’s authority over his wife.  Jason said that once we got married, that’s the way it would be with us.  He also said that he would not hesitate to enforce the rules that he believed would help us live happily ever after.  By now I was totally in love with Jason, even though we still had not had intercourse!  He believed sex was something meant for marriage, so of course I was dying for our wedding night!  When the day finally came, it was the best day of my life!  And it did feel like the first time when we finally consummated our marriage.

We have been married 5 years now, and even though there had been a few bumps in the road (Like the time I was sneaking a cigarette and Jason came home for lunch unexpectedly…I will never do that again),  when I met my future husband, he was unlike any other man I had ever met.

We now have two beautiful children, and just discovered we are expecting our 3rd!  I never knew that I would be so blessed in this life.

To the ladies, I would like to say, give up those “bad guys”, and find yourself a good Christian man who will lead you down the right path in life.